Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Steve's Steps To Being More People Friendly Step 2


So you took step one and DECIDED...yes, you want to be more people friendly. Big step! Good job! Now what???


STEP TWO: UNDERSTAND


One of the most difficult things for a lot of us to understand is the world does not revolve around us. The sun will still rise tomorrow morning, gas will continue to cost you an arm and a leg, and people will continue to migrate through their lives regardless of whether you are here or not. Bottom line, in the grand scheme of things....you and I are pretty much irrelevant so long as we continue to believe this great world ceases to exist until our we pop our head out from our tribunal of slumber.

Understand that in order to be more people friendly, you have to understand that there are other people to be friendly to!

Understand that when faced with a challenge, dilemma, request, engagement, situation, desire, etc... that "what's in it for me?" should not be the first and only question that rattles around your dome.

Understand that other people matter. And when examined further....they often matter a whole lot more than our opinions, our agenda, our desires and our wants.

Understand that in order for people to want to be around you, let alone like you, they have to know you.

Understand that anyone, and I do mean anyone, can be liked.

Understand the minute you don't start beginning every single thought, email, letter, story, conversation, analogy, whatever with the word "I" you will have taken a significant step forward in being more people friendly.

One last thing....understand that rejection, especially as you venture outside your comfort zone to open yourself up to vulnerability can be painful. Fortunately it isn't fatal.

Okay, I lied....there is one more last thing....

Understand that being more people friendly can and will open up some amazing opportunities that people that won't take the chances you are about to take will never experience. Life is so much richer when you live it with, through and along side other people.

Until next time....

Ripple On!

Steve Harper
www.therippleeffectbook.com

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