Zig Ziglar is famous for saying, "Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude. My friends I couldn't agree more.
I know several people that simply fail to connect the dots as to why "their lot in life" (as Star Wars reference thank you very much) is a direct reflection of the attitude they have about it.
Believe it or not these are all phrases that have been uttered to me just in the last two weeks! All by people coming to me looking for a magic bullet to fix their problems. Guess what, that magic bullet which I shared with each of them, is changing their approach to how they feel and even talk about their circumstances. And if that doesn't work...change the circumstances.
Attitude is our internal and external reflection of how we process, absorb, perceive and approach things in life. It is the ultimate barometer to how happy or sad we make ourselves AND (this is a big one) others!
If your attitude is in the dumper then you my friend need to make a change. Change your vocabulary and the story you tell yourself and others about your circumstances. Change the poor me victim mentality and realize you are ultimately responsible for your situation, no one else. Change your focus and reposition it so that even if things suck right now you can see the bright light at the end of the tunnel and strive to get there sooner rather than later.
I suggested to these people the following:
"If I want love in my marriage then I have to go out of my way to share love before I can expect it to be reciprocated. Then and only then will I know if I've given it my all and we'll see where things go from there."
Change your attitude and watch as you gain altitude. For those naysayers out there, yes, it really is that simple.