Don't Judge That Book

If you have been a reader of this BLOG for any length of time you very well know that I continually preach that you should never (and I mean never ever, ever) judge a book by it's cover. Clearly I am not talking about my book silly! No, what I am mean is you should never judge the connections you make and simply take them for face value. Because if you do you will absolutely be sorry. I almost was.

Shortly after I released my book a few years ago I met a lady that I could have easily overlooked. She was a bit wonky. She was a bit "out there." Though she was clearly an instant fan of my Ripple philosophy our brief interactions were often convoluted and her conversations with me somewhat spastic. Though she really seemed to like me I initially was not drawn to her.

It would have been easy to avoid her, even though that is a partial lie; she seemed to appear out of no where and was at most events I spoke at here locally. I could have ignored the very lengthy emails she sent to me about how the Ripple applies to this or that situation. I could have freaked out a bit when she found my phone number and started calling me just to chat about Ripples. I could have easily overlooked this very assertive and somewhat direct individual and what would have been the harm in that?

Plenty I can assure you.

There was a reason our paths crossed. I had to keep reminding myself of that each time she seemed to track me down at the less than ideal time. I had to remember my own philosophy that people come into your life for a very specific reason and it was my job (and at times it did feel like a job) to find out why.

So I was patient. Our interactions eventually grew more cohesive and congruent. I realized her often assertive behavior and fast talking was a by-product of her so working herself up to talk to me. I let her in and somehow she instinctively knew it and she became more comfortable around me and I think in some ways, in her own skin. Our casual chats suddenly became opportunities to enjoy each others' company, ideas and dreams.

Fast forward to present day and a meeting I recently had with a top, nationally recognized company all because of her. She made meeting with a top executive I likely would never have met on my own possible. When the meeting occurred I was told by the same top executive that this woman was so adamant that she meet with me that she couldn't refuse. Apparently I was pre-billed as "the guy this executive needed to meet." And because of that meeting a world of possibilities are beginning to open up to me - possibilities I squarely owe to a women I now consider a friend.

Who is repeatedly appearing in your life that maybe you need to reset or altogether suspend your judgment of them? Who did you perhaps initially judge too harshly? Take another shot of discovering why they seem to be hanging around. I guarantee you life has a reason for it. Don't just take my word for it....go discover it for yourself.

Steve's Words of Ripple:

Remember - judging a book by its cover only prevents you from reading the real story contained within.

Ripple On!!!

Connect Deeper

I have spent a wonderful few days visiting with my dad who is in town from Albuquerque. Although our fishing trips haven't quite produced the number of fish I had hoped or promised, it has allowed us some great time to talk and just be with one another. There isn't a fish big enough that could outweigh the quality time and conversation I've had with my old man!

Before dad's visit, I had a plan. I wanted to know more about him and find out some of the things that he was passionate about. I decided to give him a little pre-trip homework as a way to connecting with him deeper. It started with a little email...asking him for a "favor."

One day while I was out riding on my bike and my iPod was set to shuffle when an unmarked track of incredible jazz started playing. I knew instantly it was from one of the CDs I had ripped on one of my trips home (before I knew what I was doing to get the CD with with artist information on the iPod - no laughing please!) and instantly I felt closer to my dad. I spent the rest of that night listening to a lot of unmarked tracks and thinking of him. That got my mind a churning.

I started thinking....I don't even know what my dad's favorite CDs are. These tracks I was listening too may or may not be one of his favorites. I had randomly just grabbed CDs and started burning when I had first gotten my iPod. Given the feeling that I was experiencing and how warm it made my heart an idea of connecting deeper with my dad started to unfold. With it came a plan....a plan to learn more about what he considers his top favorites.

So the next evening I started a short email entitiled "Favor." In that email I asked him to prepare a list - a little homework if you will before his visit to Austin. In that email I asked him the following:

• I asked him to preare a list of his favorite artists and albums of all time. I even asked him to bring me 10-15 of his favorite CDs - I wanted to be sure I captured the ones that meant the most to him. That would help my iPod listening make sure I felt close to him.
• I asked him to prepare a list of his all-time favorite books.
• I asked him to prepare a list of his all-time favorite movies.
• I also asked him to bring any of the sketchs or doodling he did when we was designing woodworking stuff; my dad has mad skills when it comes to woodworking and jewelry making.

My goal was to find some things that meant a lot to my dad and make damn sure I knew what they were. The results were amazing. My dad not only completed his homework assignment but he brought even more. Stories and smiles that accompanied the list was worth it's weight in gold. Heck I even found out the movie my parents were watching when they decided they were "getting serious!" Okay....maybe it was too much information (TMI as my kids might say) but it sure brought a smile to Dad's face when he spoke about it.

There are people in your life right now you know you want to connect with on a deeper more meaningful level. Whether it be family, friends, business associates, whatever. It just takes having the courage to ask the right kinds of questions to open up an entire world of connection points. Regardless of whether your connection is friendship, business or blood, take the time and you may just find yourself enjoying immersed in simple pleasures and distant memories which now don't seem so distant anymore.

That's connecting my friends!

Ripple On!!!