Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Remember You Are Always On

The quickest way to make a bad impression is to activate the mouth before engaging the brain.

Recently I attended an event where the organizer of the event ripped off a litany of inappropriate language and innuendos in front of people he had just literally met. Several of the people who were in attendance were visibly uncomfortable with his foul language, misaligned stories and off-colored jokes. I could see the respect and reputation that had initially brought these people to this gathering in the first place literally evaporating in front of my very eyes.

They were embarrassed for him. I was embarrassed for him. And unfortunately he remains clueless as to the damage his mouth was causing him.

I will be the first to admit that I am no angel. But I remember the advice a former boss gave me way back when. "Remember kid, you are always on stage. You represent me. You represent the company. And most of all, (I still see him pausing for effect) you represent yourself."

I would like to say that I have always followed that advice but admittedly I have not; and it has cost me dearly. The wrong word at the wrong time has cost me a good connection, lost me someone's respect and generally made me look like the back end of the ugliest horse's you know what.

Remember to engage the brain before you open your mouth. The person you offend today could just very well insure the door you need tomorrow remains forever locked. And what a bad Ripple that would be.

Ripple On!!!


Asha said...

Great advice Steve!! Thanks for visiting me today online!

Chat with you soon.


Arlin K. Pauler said...

Ahaaa! I get it. Not all "ripple are created equal.
This looks like a call to be mindful of the kind difference – Karma - we want to create; and then just “Ripple” on. Sounds like "Right Action" to me.
Have a fun and fulfilling day.
Arlin, aka Elder Dude.

Tom Magness said...


This is critical advice for leaders. We are always on, always being watched. This is what we call the "burden of command." Being in charge carries many responsibilities. Setting the example for others is probably at the top of that list. Thanks for the reminder, Ripple Dude.