Monday, May 15, 2006

Steve's Steps To Being More People Friendly Step 5

Today is Monday....the beginning of a new week. What a great time to begin putting your steps to being more people friendly to work for you.


The only way you can begin becoming more people friendly is to practice, practice, practice! This is what will separate you from the rest of the pack. Think about it...people go to all kinds of training, motivational talks, etc., and come out pumped up and ready to apply what they have learned and then simply don't. Time passes and the excitement that was there suddenly diminishes and you simply fail to execute on what you have learned.


In order to get good at being more people friendly, you have to practice. Sounds sort of moronic I know but it sooooo true. Trust me when I say, trying this won't kill you and honestly you can and will be surprised by the results.

So how do you get started? You have read and even understand the four steps I outlined previously. They make sense and you can see how they apply to you right?

Today is Monday. I suspect at some juncture you will either find yourself at a coffee shop, out for lunch, at the grocery store, buying gas, in line at the post office, at the bank, standing in an elevator, standing in your front yard, walking the dog, dropping your son or daughter off for practice, and blah, blah, blah. The point is, you will today, likely right surrounded at some point by one or many people whom you do not know.

Do this....wherever you find yourself today, just try this. Catch someone's eye. Really look at them and smile. Simply smile while you hold their eye for just 1 or 2 seconds. That's it! No need to utter a word! Just look at them, smile and let your face explain that you are who you are. Nothing more needed. At least yet!

I can see some of you either saying...well I can do that, that sounds simple.

Others may be asking the does that make me more people friendly? Well catching someone's eye during the course of life is a special thing in and of itself. Seriously. How many people in the past week have actually looked you in the eye and smiled. Our eyes are our pathway to our soul; making eye contact with someone already puts you on the fast track.

For the next few days, simply try this trick and make a mental note of how the non-verbal exchange makes you feel. Did you change someone's state by simply giving them a little bit of attention and a smile? Have fun and pay special attention to how you feel because this process will become addictive!

Until next time.....

Ripple On!!!

Steve Harper

1 comment:

LornaJay said...

Dangerous recommendation if you're a woman, I'm afraid - that kind of eye contact is generally taken by a man as an invitation to everything including bed. Sad, but true.

Or maybe that's just in the UK!

I'm really enjoying your blog - I've been googling about networking for a while and landed on yours and stayed.